Narcissism got you down?
You’re not alone. Here’s something simple that can help.
A New Book by Gretta B. HarrisMe?
A Narcissist’s Guide to
Not Dying Alone
A book for people who are kinda the problem (and somewhere, deep down, already know it).
Most books about narcissism are written for the people who have to deal with one. This one is written for the narcissist.
It's for people who are a little bit the problem… more often than they'd like to admit, in ways they don't always see clearly. It's warm-but-direct, research-backed, and, for what it's worth, kind of funny.
What you'll get: a clear-eyed look at how narcissistic behavior costs you the things you actually want:
your relationships
your career
your health
And it shares a simple tool to start changing that. No personality transplant required.
The ebook is provided as an “EPUB” file. This file type can be opened by ebook readers, including Books (Apple), Kobo, Google Play, Nook, Calibre, Sumatra, Adobe Digital Editions, etc.
You have a decent apartment in a senior living facility. Your son comes by every couple of months—he's busy with work and his own family. At least that's what you tell yourself.
Jenny down the hall sees her kids every weekend. They have jobs and families too, yet somehow they find the time. You still have your card games with Joe from the 2nd floor. He doesn't hear so well, but he always seems interested in what you have to say. The other residents are cordial, but not much else.
At the end, your room feels lonely. No one comes by to hear your stories. The nurses and attendants seem to keep their trips to your room as short as possible. You appreciate their commitment to efficiency, but you wish they were a little more friendly.
Imagine you live to the ripe old age of 93.
And then, eventually, your light goes out. No one was there to say goodbye. No one shares stories about you. Memories of you fade.
That scenario isn't meant to be bleak. It's meant to be useful. Because the choices that lead there are happening right now, in ordinary moments most people don't notice—until they do.
This book isn't really for people with clinical Narcissistic Personality Disorder, though all are welcome.
It's really more for the much larger group of people who are a little bit the problem… the ones who occasionally hijack conversations, can't quite take feedback, struggle to be happy for other people's good news, or go quiet and cold instead of saying what's actually wrong.
If it seems like everyone around you is consistently disappointing or disappearing (your kids are ungrateful, your partner is always out with friends, your colleagues are incompetent, your friends are flakes) it might be worth considering what the common denominator in your relationships is…
THE GOOD NEWS:
Getting what you want and keeping the people you like close doesn’t require a personality transplant.
Most of the damage that leads to people abandoning your ship happens fast, like in the two seconds between something happening and you, possibly, reacting in a less-than-ideal way.
This book hands you one simple way to catch yourself in that moment instead of losing it.
No therapy homework, no tracking your feelings in a journal. Just something you can actually use the next time it counts.
Meet the Author
Gretta B. Harris has spent years watching narcissists (a parent, a former boss) push people away and make their own lives harder in the process. Me? A Narcissist's Guide to Not Dying Alone comes from that vantage point: a research-backed, occasionally irreverent guide built on the idea that people with narcissistic traits aren't monsters. They just have some blind spots that make it hard to see what they're doing that's actually working against them. But with a little change in perspective, change becomes possible (and that's a good thing for everyone).
Gretta took a couple psych classes in community college but ended up pursuing art. She sometimes wonders if that was the right choice.